NLP Techniques for Lasting Change
There are many NLP techniques or patterns as they are sometimes called, which can be used for different purposes.
They can be used individually or in combination with one another for creating new and effective ways of accessing the mind for a lasting change.
Each procedure contains logical organized steps to help bring about powerful lasting changes in your life.
NLP is a very powerful and positive model that places emphasis on facilitating change and generating solutions.
People are unique, so there is no “one-size-fits-all” approach, hence the many powerful NLP techniques available.
Common NLP techniques
Anchoring is when we create a response to something that happens each time there is a specific stimulus.
Of course the stimulus could be visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory, or gustatory.
An example of an auditory anchor may be when you hear a song on the radio, you begin to feel happy and excited as you think back to some happy event.
Anchors are constantly influencing our behaviour, whether at work or at home.
Being at work becomes an anchor for workplace behaviour, being anxious or insecure may be a trigger to smoke or drink.
The Swish pattern can be used to break automatic thoughts and behaviour patterns, and replace them with more resourceful ones.
Swish can be used for challenging behaviours such as stopping smoking, anger management, public speaking, self-confidence, or low self-worth.
It is the most famous and commonly applied Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique.
In NLP Re-framing is based on the idea that all meaning depends on your point of view.
To re-frame something is to change its meaning, by placing it in a different setting, context or frame.
Going dressed as a zombie to a party has a different meaning depending on whether it is Halloween or a funeral.
Re-framing is about taking an ordinary event and putting it in a new frame that is useful or enjoyable.
To re-frame a nasty experience can make it seem funny and less hurtful.
Mirroring enhances the ability to establish rapport with another.
The skill of mirroring is important in modelling others and for becoming intuitive in understanding the internal experiences of those you model.
Using Meta Model helps clarify communications. The Meta Model is the foundation of NLP.
We build representations of the world around us called maps or models.
Individual maps and models vary with different people they are rarely the same.
If two people were to hear someone speak about the fundamentals of parenting, each one would have a different interpretation of what they heard.
This is because we use three universal modelling processes to build our maps or models; they are deletions, distortions and generalizations.
The Meta Model helps to recover deleted information and untangle misunderstandings in our own or others’ communications.
Presuppositions are the pillars that support the structure of NLP. Presuppositions, in general, are beliefs, they are not necessarily true.
We accept them as if they were true and then apply them in a practical way to our lives.
If they improve our lives or our performance then we continue to use them as if they were true.
Here are 10 common NLP presuppositions
- We cannot communicate
- The map is not the territory
- There is no failure only feedback
- The way you communicate elicits a response
- All behaviour is constructive in some way
- If what you are doing isn’t working, do something else
- People make the best choices they can with what they have at the time
- Mind and Body are part of the same cybernetic system
- People work perfectly, no one is broken
- If one person can learn to do something, anyone can
Calibration improves the ability to observe and respond to physiological and behavioural cues of other people.
This involves linking behavioural cues to internal cognitive and emotional responses.
It is simply understanding what’s going on with other people, how well we “calibrate” to another person, will determine to a significant degree how effective communication will be with them.
Parts negotiation or integration
Built upon the presupposition, that there is a positive intention behind every human behaviour, is an NLP technique called the parts integration.
Most of us have experienced that inner voice that criticizes us when we make bad choices or mistakes.
Listening to the critical voice may influence you to do things which could violate your values and lower your self-confidence.
Some people experience visual images instead of a critical voice.
Their mind would keep bringing pictures up of them doing badly and messing up in situations.
In NLP these sections of ourselves are called “parts”.
The possibility of these parts hindering and standing in the way of our progress and success is very real, even though most of our parts are helpful to us.
When some of these parts are not functioning in unity and harmony with each other, a Parts Integration or Parts Negotiation may be carried out.
Although I have only mentioned a few of the NLP techniques, there are a great deal more.
If you would like to learn more about NLP techniques there is a great book called “The Big Book of NLP Techniques” by – Shlomo Vaknin This book contains 200+ Patterns, methods and strategies of NLP.